“Can I really say these words to God?”

Karl McIlwaine‘Here is LOVE …..’ – Karl McIlwaine shares his thoughts:

During the 11am morning service on 18th October we sang the song

God, I look to you; I won’t be overwhelmed. Give me wisdom to see things like you do.
God, I look to you; you’re where my help comes from. Give me wisdom; you know just what to do.

The song goes on:

I will love you Lord my strength. I will love you Lord my shield. I will love you Lord my rock.
Forever, all my days, I will love you God

And I thought “Can I really say these words to God?”

This led me to thinking about what Love really is and I got confused as I remembered how I felt when I fell in love with my first girlfriend. The feeling was intense and deep; it was continuous – at times almost all consuming in that it got in the way of everything else I had in my mind.

And I had to admit that I didn’t think about God like that at all. Did I really love him?

Then these unhappy, disturbing thoughts were replaced by another, I believe from The Lord himself through the Holy Spirit speaking to my mind. I realised that Love is not about how you feel, it’s about how you act.

I first had this revelation a week or two before as I spoke with a young Christian about her doubts about her relationships with other Christians but I had, for the moment, forgotten it. I realised that I had been confusing LOVE (which describes your relationship with another) with AFFECTION (is how you feel about them).

Love often begets affection, but not always. It is possible for a child to have grown up in a home where (s)he was loved, cherished and nourished in every way but where (s)he was never given affection by a strict, demanding controlling parent. So love and affection are related, but different.

Jesus never said “If you love me, send me presents on my birthday”, or “if you love me, tell me I’m strong, trustworthy or beautiful” but He did say “if you love me, obey my commandments” (John 14 v 15 Living New Testament) or even more succinctly in The Living Bible “if you love me, obey me”

Child in God's armsLove is more about how we act than how we feel so you don’t need to experience a tingly feeling when you think of God to know that you love him, you just need to know that you are living according to his Way, revealed in his Word. So, get to know the Bible as best you can and live it out, in his strength.

And you know that He loves You because he gave Jesus to die in your place …..

and that’s a FACT.







22nd Oct 2015 Posted in: 'tellmystory', News by Stella Jennings 2

2 Responses

  1. Brian Thomas says:

    Thank you for this, Karl. There is a song by Don Francisco which echoes the same thoughts. These are the words of the chorus:
    Jesus didn’t die for you because it was fun,
    He hung there for love because it had to be done.
    And in spite of the anguish, his word was fulfilled,
    Love is not a feeling, it’s an act of your will.

    Love is a choice, one I often fail to make, but God is patient with me. He forgives me when I get it wrong and says, “We can do this together, if you will let me help you!”

  2. Karl McIlwaine says:

    Thanks for taking this further, Brian. Your comment is a helpful addition.

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